Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Becoming a Doula

"The word "doula" comes from the ancient Greek meaning "a woman who serves" and is now used to refer to a trained and experienced professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to the mother before, during and just after birth; or who provides emotional and practical support during the postpartum period.
Studies have shown that when doulas attend birth, labors are shorter with fewer complications, babies are healthier and they breastfeed more easily."

Read more here.



Since I was little, I’ve loved babies. Babysitting, big families, and the Bolivian Baby Home have all made up the best parts of my life! 

I can also add "birth stories" to the list, particularly a hobby when I was finally expecting my own baby at age 30. While I was thrilled that former CDA volunteer Katrina planned right from the beginning to travel to Bolivia and allow me to have a home birth, I read the stories with a new level of attention and felt compelled to prepare myself physically and mentally. I knew birth would be like a marathon, and difficult to switch from home to hospital in Bolivia. I was determined to do whatever I could on my end to make a natural home birth possible, even though the hospital transfer rate for first births is high. God was gracious and blessed us with a relatively quick, manageable birth, with an awesome support team gathered around Jake and I on that day as our family began. I was elated!

Inspired by the whole process, visions of becoming a midwife danced in my head. But first I became mother to four more children over the next 18 months and knew there was no chance of pursuing training in that demanding profession for a while yet. (Other times, my sleep-deprived self tells me that I’m crazy for even THINKING about an occupation with such an unpredictable schedule!) 



My current reading (and re-reading) stack




Fast forward to January 24, 2016. I discovered that a new church friend here in Tennessee wants to become a doula AND that training would be taking place in Memphis that very weekend. The wheels started turning. Quite honestly, I had considered becoming a non-medical labor companion “lowly” in times past. But to be fair, doulas had barely entered my thought anyway, since they weren’t an option for my births in Bolivia. One midwife was the best I was going to get! Within a couple of days, I realized it made sense to become a birth doula first, much more attainable with young children, and that way still become part of the birthing community. Jake told me it was a great fit, that it’s obvious I’m passionate about it. I wrote a group of friends to get their thoughts, and they were very positive regarding both their experiences with doulas and my new dream.

It wasn’t possible to arrange everything for the January training on such short notice with a frequently nursing baby, but I intend to participate in the next local training in August. Meanwhile, I’ve much enjoyed researching different aspects of becoming a birth doula! I am stocking up on the books needed for the training and DONA certification process, making lists of local birth professionals and studying what services they offer, solidifying ideas for my website and blog, getting the word out that I can help families at the birth of their baby without cost… And I now have a legitimate excuse to learn from birth stories all the time, ha! 

This week I began The Bradley Method Childbirth classes as an observer. I LOVED the first class and could see myself teaching them in the future! I’m grateful for special savings that allows me to begin this now, even as Jake works hard to get our income stabilized in our new life in the states.

Stay tuned for more news, especially if you are a woman living in the Memphis area!



Another stack of books we're working through - I'm picking up reading as a hobby again!

Monday, February 29, 2016

Washington Cabin WINTER Trip!




I decided to post the best pictures of our cabin trip on our neglected blog rather than FB, to better preserve the memories!! :)

Getting a bit of guidance from big brother (Sophia always turns heads in airports pulling her own luggage!)


I'm not going to spend hours getting them in perfect order. I figure they'll be enjoyable to those who care, anyway!

Packing S & L's clothes and accessories in plastic bags before the trip made dressing them DURING the trip lots easier!!

There were some long hauls on the road, but nothing our South-American-road-tripping crew couldn't handle!!


Crossing a snowy pass up in the mountains between Bellingham (the cousins) and Chelan (the cabin)!


Jake told us to jump out for this picture on our way to the cabin! Everyone got a taste of SNOW!

 Lydia got very good at napping in her car seat...


Jake preparing the troops to snowshoe in with our luggage and food for a few days (since the driveway hasn't been kept clear since winter began, it wasn't possible to drive all the way)


Lydia was woken from a nap upon arrival to the property and had an uncharacteristic "freak out" after being outside a few minutes. Here, she's chilling the car with the heat turned back on! This baby has my Texas blood, yessiree.


First time!! My Russia coat came in handy on the trip

Arrival to the cabin, before the fire was lit!


Melting snow for cleaning water! Jake eventually got the water pumping in spite of deep snow


Dinnertime!

Two babies in a tub, rubadub

Lydia, waiting patiently to be snowshoed out on our first leg to church Sunday morning


Sledding time!!

The boys played outside for hours on end



The weather was gorgeous during our stay - 40s during the daytime and sunny!

Lots of fun!!


Lydia checking out the snow (the cabin is way up behind the tallest trees)

 Some of our kids in dad's childhood room


Drying wet snow clothes by the fire...


Sunday Lunch!
I focused on making meals that were hot, tasty, and simple, since it's a full time job keeping up with the babies when they're awake.
 

View out master bedroom window


The best video I made of the boys sledding over what appears to be a sheer drop-off was too big to upload. This is a good one, too.


Sophia and Lydia, ready for a ride on the sled Grandpa B made for them!!


They loved it!! Lydia giggled the first few minutes and Sophia settled in like a queen on her pallet :)


Sophia finally decided she was capable of walking on snow right after this picture was made, using the flat, footprint-free area behind them


Brother pulling babies back at sunset...


The boys always insisted on pushing Sophia back up hills!


Leaving the cabin with daddy


The drive down to Chelan from the cabin


The kids! February 23, 2016

The kids (and Grandma B)! September 19, 2014

Thursday, December 31, 2015

Beaty Family Christmas Letter 2015

2015
Another Big Year...


Dear Family & Friends,

Happy New Year! Probably can't call this a "Christmas" letter, but hey, we've done a thing or two this year. (No time for grass to grow under our feet - Jake loves that!)

Let’s see…
…new baby
…new Casa de Amor administration
…new countries visited
…new home in a different country
…new jobs

Starting with our busy head-of-the-family, Jake has worked hard this year providing for our family through different internet marketing/writing jobs and also exploring new income opportunities. It's been wonderful to have him at home as he works via the internet from Bolivia or the US. That allowed from some flexibility when his brother Luke and family (wife and three sons) visited us in Bolivia in June for a great visit!

In his free time, Jake finished writing a book! His first draft of Winter’s Comin’ tells the story of his family’s adventures when they moved to central Washington to build and live in a cabin off-grid. He also began blending traditional Bolivian fabric with the design of his favorite hoodie and started a business: Tunari Apparel.

Jake and the boys did Boy Scouts the first half of the year in Bolivia including some camp outs. They also trained for and participated in a triathlon, quite the feat - and at high altitude! Jake still has a special way with Sophia—I never tire of watching them interact!

Jennifer (that’s me) rarely has a quiet moment keeping the family fed, rested, educated, and clothed - in about that order. It's a round-the-clock job! This year had several all-consuming projects. For the first few months as I “cooked” our next baby, I was also working to pass off Casa de Amor to new administrative hands after 13 years at the helm. With a large family of my own, it had become apparent that big change was necessary for the good of everyone, and Jake encouraged me to make those steps. He also thought it would be a great idea to take our family on a five country road trip through South America before leaving the continent. Only he and I needed visas since our five children all possess Bolivian passports. We traveled approximately 5,000 miles in our family-size 1991 Land Cruiser as we made a circuit through Bolivia, Argentina, Paraguay, Brazil, and Uruguay...and now shiver in fear to imagine do anything remotely similar ever again!

Iguazu Falls, Argentina side

After that, we had exactly two crazy weeks to close up our wonderful life in Bolivia and move to Germantown, Tennessee, on September 15. We now live near my parents and three sisters, plus grandparents who moved to TN one week after us. We're also more accessible to other relatives - Jake's parents visited us at Thanksgiving! I love all the opportunities for our kids and they love the attention from relatives and visits to the cookie stores! I’ve been surprised how easy the transition has been, although I of course miss Cochabamba and all our friends there.

Joel, now 12, does very well in school. As his teacher, I most appreciate his good attitude! It's also neat to see him become a reader. He is a great helper and has really grown in his patience with the babies. 

Michael, who turned 12 in August while we were in Buenos Aires, keeps busy and keeps us busy…listening! It’s encouraging to watch him mature and settle into his place in our family. Of the three boys, he made the most progress with an adoption therapist earlier this year in Bolivia. Michael loves playing with his siblings and the neighbors and is a very good student when he decides to be!

Samuel is 11 ½. He has a hard time with change and with English, but we hope that the resources we now have in the US will be beneficial to him. I started looking for help with the moderate dyslexia, ADD, and other associated issues, as soon as we arrived. Finally, after months of various tests and appointments we await a thorough report that should point us in the right direction of curriculum, programs, therapy, etc., to make life less frustrating for him (and all of us!). He still loves his Legos and wishes we had a cat!   

Sophia, age 2 going on 12, is Miss Charmer and the center of attention wherever we go, in any country! Always one to follow her own time table, she finally decided at 17 months that walking was superior to scooting around. At 18 months and 3 days, she had the shock of her life when a new baby arrived on the scene to vie for mama’s attention. After a rough couple of months, I’m happy to report that she’s come around and perhaps even likes her little sister. She is very verbal, using hundreds of words well, and keeps us all on our toes!

Lydia Ruth, now 8 1/2 months, joined our family in the early hours of April 16. Baby #2/5 was born weighing 8 pounds, 1 ounce, at home in Bolivia with a midwife from New Zealand, a medical student from Canada, and Grandma Thea Ruth Beaty visiting from Washington. Lydia means “traveler” and her Dad has made sure she lives up to it! The very day she turned 4 months old, she woke in Paraguay, napped through Brazil, and went to bed in Argentina at Iguazu Falls. The day she turned 5 months was her first day in the US, her fifth country.

Lydia has been the perfect addition to our family, so happy and laid back. She eats well, sleeps well...then eats well and sleeps well! The boys affectionately call her “fatty”, “gorda”, and “chubs”. Yesterday Jake called her a jelly doughnut: “squishy and sweet”! It’s funny for us to hear people say she looks like Sophia, as closer observation reveals how opposite they are. Even aside from personality and volume differences, by 8 months of age, Sophia had a full head of hair, several teeth, and refused to crawl—much less stand! Since birth she hangs out in the 25 percentile for weight. Lydia doesn’t have enough hair for a bow, zero teeth, and crawls and pulls up to everything. She grows along the 95 percentile curve and has worn the same size diaper as big sister since she was 4 months old!


Merry Christmas from the kiddos


That's it from us this year! We'd love to get your Christmas letters and pictures if you mailed one. Let us know if you'd like our new contact information!

Happy New Year!

Jacob, Jennifer, Joel (12), Michael (12), Samuel (11 ½), Sophia (26 months), and Lydia (8 months)


Sunday, November 15, 2015

Tennessee!!

 I still can hardly believe it, but....

September 22, 2015


WE MOVED TO THE US TWO MONTHS AGO!!!

(If you missed the "why", read this post.)

Stair step kids...sort of :)


Exploring the woods behind our house

 New past time for the boys: raking leaves!


The transition has actually gone way, way, way better than Jake or I ever imagined. We were expecting the worst, especially for me, so content for so many years in Bolivia! Although it took a year for me to accept the impending move, we can both say without a doubt that it was the right decision for our family at this time. I love all the opportunities for the kids! Joel is in art, Michael is the one who most thrives on interaction with new friends (neighbors, homeschool group activities), Samuel has many more therapy opportunities for his educational and emotional needs, Sophia loves library story time and real baths, and Lydia is super close to crawling thanks to rolling around on soft carpet - something her sister never did on the cold tile of our Bolivian abodes!


Fall at the Collierville Square!


Everyone asks how the boys are doing. They are doing great! They have begged us to move to the states ever since coming last year. I would say the challenges we have are the same as in Bolivia, but it's somewhat easier to deal with living near family support, and just generally less stressful lives here. The English is still a main focus with them. I think that by this point, each one just needs to make a conscious decision to properly pronounce the sounds that are different or not found in Spanish, and to use past tense correctly, sentences without double-negatives, etc., because when asked, they know how to correct themselves.

 At Old West with Nana

And, for sure, all five LOVE time with Nana and Pops (my parents), my sisters the "aunts", and even great-grandparents!

A note found one day...

Biggest fans of Nana and Pops' cookies!
  
Sophia with Pops at Old West Stables
I finally got to watch my sister Emma with her Grand Entry team!


 Great-Grandpa on his 92nd birthday!

Talk about a crazy time for my parents: my grandparents were moved here from Texas less than 2 weeks after we arrived!

We have found a friendly church, adoptive mom/dad support groups, very active homeschool group (extra bonus: many members have adopted), gotten library cards for both Germantown and Collierville, and zoo and local museum membership (thanks to the grandparents)! There are some lovely parks nearby, too.

 Sophia on the boardwalk at her favorite pace - running!!

Yeah for a double stroller, a consignment store find!

We are rapidly finding our way around and enjoying how peaceful and relaxing it is to drive here. For wheels, my family has almost continually loaned us their 4-door pick-up until we get something else, plus Jake had his 1969 Ford Fairlane trucked in from Washington last month. A speaker at a pro-life conference once told him that would rapidly be traded in for a mini-van once Jake married, but look at us...

 Back from church

Don't mess with "The Soph"!



Both vehicles seat 6, but our kids are small. ;-)

It's easier to miss Cochabamba now, as our time here lengthens. I find that when I close my eyes, I often picture myself somewhere in Cochabamba. I have to make the decision to not "go there" for too long or else risk becoming very homesick. This is where we are for now, and it's a good season.

Our grand backyard!

As for Casa de Amor, the transitioning process was in full swing and seemed to be heading to a happy conclusion by August... And then completely unraveled my last two weeks in country. Casa de Amor really needs and deserves solid administrative support for supporter communication and finance matters. They continue to have to rely on me for certain things, gracious as usual with my big-family-busy-ness. I am blessed to have Rosa as director and Danyelle assisting with the volunteers!



November 3, 2015
The whole crew! :)

Any day now our container of books, wall hangings, and Jake's favorite car will be here, and then we'll really be set up!!